So, I woke up this morning, thinking about all the people who are in my life, who are no longer in my life, and those who are in and out of my life. After pondering it for a while, I felt disappointed, but soon after that, I got a revelation that I am expecting too much from people. Yes, these are people who I hold near and dear to my heart; Yes, these are people I will do anything for if it is within my means; Yes, I love them and want nothing but the best for them, but at the end of the day when people show you who they are... take it for what it is and stop expecting them to do as you would do.
I have sacrificed a lot of myself to help people and I am now at a point where I do not wish to do that anymore. Then I heard a voice say, is that how God would treat you? No! He will always do for me when I won’t do for Him. He will always be there even if I am not there for Him. If I am of Him, then how can I not love and treat people the way He treats me?!
No matter what the people in your life will/won’t do for you, in the manner that you have or would do for them; continue to love them and stop expecting anything more from them.
Disappointment can be a dangerous feeling to harbor.
You will start to resent these people. Want nothing to do with these people. Start speaking/gossiping about these people. I mean, you will have feelings that will harm the friendships that you have with them and most importantly others! That’s not a life to live. Also, you have to stop looking for people to be your friend. This is a constant phrase that I use, especially when it comes to my young daughters. They are at that age where they want to play and speak to all the kids that they come in contact with. But when they don't want to speak or play with them back, their face is so sad. Boy does that break my heart!
Genuine friendship is something that is organically produced. Don’t force someone to like you because you will always be disappointed when they don’t speak to you, smile at you, invite you out, or anything that a “friend” would do. Search for what makes you happy and in return, you will come across the people who are supposed to add value to your life!
I have come across a few people who have purposely not speak to me and it would bother me so much. LOL. My hubs had to remind me that I am caring too much. But how can one not?! Especially when you genuinely have a good heart and you just want to love on people? "Simple," he said, "you have to guard your heart or you will constantly have it bruised by people who shouldn't have the power to. Every time you are disappointed, you are allowing them to hurt you a little more and that's not good for someone who has a heart like yours!" I am not going to lie, that made my heart smile and turn up my face at the same time. LOL, that was because he is right!
You don't want them to have to power to alter the way you feel. This is where you will start to have feelings that are contradicting to who you truly are. Your time and life are too precious to be worried about why someone isn't your friend or isn't treating you the way that you treat them. Be grateful for the people you do have. Because you are more blessed than you think you are! Your love for them will outshine what anyone else has done or not done.
This has been heavy on my heart as of late and had to share. The way things are right now, I know that I am not the only one who has feels this way. At the end of the day, kill them with kindness! Continue to be who you are and your beautiful light will outshine all of whatever they may/may not be going through.
I pray that this blesses you in some way shape or form.
Remember... You are a Gem worth fighting for, so protect yourself and continue to be the beautiful pearl that you are!